Think
your Mr. Next has the potential to be Mr. Right?
Before you leap without looking, take an honest inventory. See how many
of the following five essential traits he possesses.
The best way to know if Mr. Next is interested in (and worthyof)
being a candidate for Mr. Right? He listens to you. You'll know he's
listening when he shows genuine concern, consistently remembers things
you've told him (your birthday, favorite food, best friend's name,
etc.), and offers emotional support in honest and thoughtful ways.
We've
all been in those relationships that take W-O-R-K (and suck the life
force out of us in the process). When a relationship works on its own,
it feels effortless, easy, and fluid. You don't have to force anything,
forgive anyone, or turn a blind eye to red flags or gut-twisters.
Instead, you communicate and collaborate with comfort, compatibility,
and undeniable chemistry. If and when you experience this kind of
interaction, you are on to something really special.
So
often, women feel the need to sacrifice some part of themselves to make
a relationship work. In the right relationship, there's no need. You
don't have to hide, tone down, or apologize for any aspect of you or
your fabulous life. With the right partner, you're not only able to be
yourself, but you're better able to be the best version of your most
authentic self -- no compromises needed.
In
the wrong relationship, your partner tears you to emotional shreds,
brings you down, and in general drains your energy. In the right
relationship, he enriches your life, inspires you to be your best self,
and brings a sense of peace and possibility to you. You'll know Mr.
Next is enriching your life if and when he encourages and supports you
professionally, personally, and spiritually. And when he does, he may
just be Mr. Right!
Does your Mr. Next
possess all five qualities? If so, congratulations! You have done your
homework, chosen wisely, and are now well positioned for relationship
success.
If not, pick yourself up,
dust yourself off, and get back into the dating pool with a clearer
understanding of who you want to date. Remember, finding your life
partner isn't always easy, but by being clear, honoring yourself, and
acting accordingly, you'll cut down on wasted time with Mr. Wrong and
Mr. Next, and ultimately make room for Mr. Right.
