Tips on Composing Successful Profile for Men

By Desmond Ray
Catch her eye. Your profile must be outstanding. How you will do that, is your choice. Everybody can write: Male, Scorpio, looking for an attractive, etc., however, you better express your own personality, invent something, which will bring attention to your profile.

Details are important However, it is a bit different case with your personal profile. Indeed, your task is to intrigue her, so if she would like to know how badly are you addicted to caffeine or what you can see from the windows of your office, you will have a chance to tell her later. Your personal description must be brief and to the point: list only the main features of your character and what you are looking for in another person.

Address her directly. You have to avoid any writing in third person, because such writing carries a serious psychological drawback. Here is an example. Assume that someone writes in his profile: "I hope to find a single woman, who likes to keep things in order and has great sense of humor, which helps her take things easy. Like, she can enjoy getting completely wet under warm summer rain," etc. She might be just that type of a girl described in this passage, but because of the third person she can miss the message, feeling that this is all about someone else. How not to miss such opportunity? One has to write in a first: "Hey, I am looking for YOU, please, wink to me if this is written about you: I love when everything in my life is in order, but if I am getting caught in a warm summer rain I just laugh and enjoy it. It is life and I am thankful for an opportunity to get a little wet once in a while!" You see, the content of the examples is the same, but the way of expression is different. And I guarantee you that the second version will attract much more attention!

Dont be too serious. Your profile, of course, should not be an entire joke. However, making it as a formal memo is a bad idea either. This is not your curriculum vita or statement of purpose! So give her a wink with your words, trick her (just a little), but be balanced. Try to be serious and funny at the same time. Good sense of humor is always a plus.

Mystify! It is hard to predict a woman, but there is a way to stir her interest: women love mysteries. So give it to them! Leave untold parts in your story, leave blanks, stir her curiosity and interest and be assured, she will wink to you or may be even will write you first! If she would fill the gaps in your story with her imagination, she would love to know how good are her guesses, so you will have her attention and this is what your profile is for!

Warning about your exclusion list. Offering your friendship to anybody is almost as much mindless, as being too picky with your requirements. Sure, there are not that many men who are looking specifically for ugly, stupid or mean women, however, you have to set your turn-offs wisely. Keep in mind that 80% of women (including gorgeous ones) some way, or another are displeased with themselves. Feeling stupid or ugly does not mean to be the one, but the best part of mankind sometimes mistakes their feelings for reality. You better leave such judgment to yourself. Besides, if someone will stipulate that he is looking for a supermodel with Ph.D. in physics, ladies may view this as an indication of some inferiority complex, and skip to the next profile.

Watch your language. I am not talking about the choice of your words, I am talking about observing the grammar. You can write that you are very successful in your business, that you are dreaming to fill your mansion in Palm Beach Gardens with kids and pets, but you cannot do this alone, etc. Make just two grammar mistakes and your chances to find someone will dwindle substantially. She will not buy it, no matter how "sensear is your writting".

Restrain from any physical boast. It is always better to keep your male stamina restrained in your profile. Unless you are looking into a short, 1-2 night relationship, it is not a good idea to emphasize that you are "passionate lover, who can make it 10 times in a row". Do not make yourself looking silly.

Truth, truth and nothing but the truth. Lie will be revealed sooner or later. Why should you tarnish possibly great relationship with a lie? Be honest with your profile and with the choice of your photos.

Brevity is a virtue. That reminds me to finish this article. Just a final word: be brief but avoid omissions and abbreviations. Your profile is not a classified ad (although there is some similarity), you will be given enough space to express yourself. If you will make it in untidy manner, woman may think that so will be your attention to her, and so she will pass you. So make it tidy and to the point. Good luck.
About the Author:
Des has one Ph.D. and one M.S., which are irrelevant to the major subject of his writing: relationships, personals and dating. To contact Des, see his other articles and/or access collection of ebooks and other materials on online dating, finding your match online, writing personal profiles, meeting singles and keeping healthy relationships, or just for joining web dating sites, visit Orbiana Web Dating Directory .